One of our most successful habits for clients is ‘notice and name’. You notice your behaviour and you name the reason. Without judgement, of course.
Do you feel calmer once you’ve had a glass of wine after a crazy day at work? Does that bar of chocolate feel amazing when you have finally managed to put the kids to bed?
When we slow down, pause, and pay attention, we put our conscious, thinking brain in charge instead of our unconscious, automatic brain.
We’re able to make more informed choices. Like picking healthy food.
We feel more in control of our actions — more able to do those behaviour goals we’ve set for ourselves. We’re calmer. Kinder with ourselves.
When you notice a behaviour consider the pay off. What is it that you get out of it? You repeat it for a reason..
We sometimes reach for things when we want to change a feeling. To alleviate stress, boredom, loneliness, anger. But if we take the time to notice and name we can change our behaviour.
Burying our emotions, whatever they are, will only result in them manifesting in other ways. You cannot hide from your truth. If you are feeling stressed, you may need to assess your work/life balance. If you are bored, is it time to enrol in that class you keep promising you’ll go to? If you are lonely, pick up the phone (social media does not count here!) and reconnect with friends and family.
Be brave and truly feel your emotions – free yourself from whatever binds you to your unhelpful behaviours. Know that by facing your fears you will no longer be ruled by them.
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